Sometimes, some people might have a kink that is so shameful or goes so strongly against their values that they want nothing to do with it.
In such scenarios, cuckolding can be one of those kinks.
It’s perfectly natural and reasonable for some to not even want to give cuckolding a chance.
Unlike what many cuckolds believe who accepted it as part of themselves, cuckolding is not like winning the lottery ticket for their wife.
The average wife did not get into marriage so they can sleep with other men.
This isn’t a lifestyle for everyone.
Cuckolding is usually a male fantasy.
To be honest, it might sound like a logical, perfect situation for the wife.
But here’s the problem, your wife didn’t sign up for this.
This article is dedicated to the wives of wannabe cuckolds, offering potential solutions to help move away from it.
Conflicting Sexual Needs
The common problem in these situations is the clash of sexual needs between the couple.
One of you has to compromise and accept that you’re not getting your way.
In most cases, the wife has the final say when it comes to cuckolding.
She holds the power to make her husband’s dreams come true or to completely shatter them.
In this situation, it’s usually best for the wife to shut the idea down.
What he’s asking for is too much.
This isn’t what you signed up for.
But please, do it with some finesse.
Without finesse, it’s hard to help your husband move on.
This could push him toward darker paths like porn addiction.
IMPORTANT: Consider the possibility that he might not even be a cuckold but rather confused with another fetish, such as voyeurism, or a BBC fetish. He might also feel that starting as a cuckold is an easier way to gradually ease you into these other fetishes.
In that case, focusing on the cuckold fetish could be the wrong move if the goal is to help him quit.
Read: “Are Cuckolds Mentally Ill?” for more info on fetish overlapping.
The Best-Case Scenario
The best outcome for a wife not interested in cuckolding is for her husband to completely give up the fantasy and start acting like the man she wants him to be.
But how can that happen?
You can’t just tell someone to stop having a kink or fetish and expect it to disappear.
You need empathy to understand his real needs and offer something in return to keep him happy.
If you think a firm “no” and ignoring his desires will solve the problem, think again.
Two Tips That Might Help
Here are two tips that could help. No guarantees, though! Just my opinion.
Tip 1 – Drain Him Empty
A sexually satisfied man is a happy man.
Cuckolds, like all men, want and need sex.
But their sexual needs are obviously different.
Simply giving him more sex won’t make his cuckold tendencies disappear.
Do you really think a cuckold, with his wild fantasies, will be satisfied with a plain handjob or vanilla sex?
For him, sex with you might feel like a chore.
Don’t take it personally, it’s not about you. He would likely feel this way with any woman.
Giving him more sex as a fix could backfire, reinforcing his cuckold feelings instead of diminishing them.
(Also, faking it does not work. Here is my cuckold mindset: If she moans like this with me, imagine what she would do with a guy 3 times my size. See?)
But sex can still help if you adjust your approach.
Spice things up with dirty talk.
Cuckolding is mostly about the mental aspect rather than the physical. So, during sex, use extreme dirty talk to engage his fantasies.
Here are some examples:
- You are not big enough for me.
- I can’t feel you, are you inside yet?
- I’m so happy you are a cuck, when the right man comes I’m definitely cheating you.
- I will ask him to cum inside me, but you can clean me afterwards.
- You would really eat the creampie of another man from me? Disgusting! (LOL)
- That guy I know from work can do whatever he wants to me, but you can’t.
- My boss is flirting with me, I think it’s a good opportunity to move up in my career.
These are just examples focused on the humiliation aspect.
Adjust them to suit your comfort level.
This kind of talk can make otherwise mundane sex more exciting for him because it taps into his cuckold mindset.
The cuckold thoughts won’t disappear entirely, but at least you’ll be meeting some of his mental needs during sex.
Tip 2: Lock Him
If your husband has strong sexual urges, he might turn to porn for sexual satisfaction as a substitute.
Porn can easily become addictive.
Even if you have frequent sex with him, he might still be sneaking off to watch his favorite interracial cuckold videos.
To break this cycle, consider using a chastity cage.
Doing only the first tip, which many wives think is enough, will just end up having everything reset back to it’s default state when he finds a window to watch porn, is a waste of time for both of you.
A chastity cage prevents him from seeking satisfaction elsewhere.
If he wants sexual release, he’ll have to come to you.
This lets you sync up with his needs.
Over time, this might help reset his brain, reducing his dependence on porn and other fantasies, like cuckolding and allowing him to enjoy sex with you again.
If he wants more sex than you can provide, he’ll have to wait, he has no other choice now.
This reinforces that his sexual satisfaction depends on the two of you, not outside sources.
Why Might This Work?
I can’t guaranteed that this work because it’s based on my personal experience.
I know it can work for me.
Will it work for everyone? Probably not.
Cuckolding is a deeply rooted idea in his mind, built up over years.
You can’t just ignore it or hope it’ll go away overnight.
By combining these two tips, you address parts of his fantasy that you’re comfortable with, creating a compromise that might work for both of you.
Advantages and Disadvantages
No matter how you handle it, understand that your husband will never be the stereotypical man you might want him to be.
Even if he hides his cuckold tendencies, it’ll just be a mask.
His true needs will remain somewhere in the back of his head.
Cuckolding is more than just a fantasy about you sleeping with other men.
Don’t make the mistake thinking it’s THAT simple.
It’s a part of him now.
It’s a strange concept, but when you think about it, it’s not so different from any other open relationship, just with less steps.
If you really want him to lose this fantasy away, don’t let him feel sexually deprived.
With time, his kink might fade into the background, or it might not.
Maybe you can join in and keep it only as a fantasy, “cuckolding” him without actually sleeping with other men.
The Real Solution?
My tips are just playful ideas, ways to engage with his fantasies while finding compromises that work for both of you.
But what if you don’t even want to go down that road?
In that case, the only real solution is seeking professional help. The feelings he has are too strong to be resolved with rationality and reason.
A marriage counselor or psychologist can provide the tools and guidance needed to navigate this sensitive issue.
If this kink could stem (who knows?) from deeper personal insecurities, unresolved emotions, or past experiences, a psychologist can help him explore and address those roots.
Therapy might help him better understand his feelings and develop healthier ways to cope with them.
Seeking professional help is not a sign of failure.
It shows that you both value your marriage enough to work through challenges together
Cucklusion
At the end of the day, you are in a situation that some women might dream of, while others might see it as degrading or pathetic.
It’s all a matter of perspective.
The grass is always greener…
What you decide to do should come from what you truly want, not from social pressure or others telling you what’s right or wrong.
Don’t be a victim of someone else’s moral code, especially if it doesn’t align with your values.
Do what feels right and best for you and your marriage.
If cuckolding feels like a possible solution, why not give it a try?
If it doesn’t, then don’t even bother with it.
The choice is yours, and it should always come from what works for you.