Disclaimer: This article discusses adult sexual preferences for informational purposes. All activities described involve consenting adults and must follow applicable laws. This is not professional advice.
Cuckolding is one of the most misunderstood sexual preferences, and I learned the hard way that when people don’t understand something, they often have negative feelings about it.
It’s just a natural human reaction to the unknown.
What I don’t like is when people start throwing around false claims and random scientific terms, like calling cuckolding a mental disorder.
Casually slapping the label “mental disorder” on things you disagree with diminishes what real disorders actually are.
At first, I wasn’t planning to go deep into this since I’m not a psychologist or anything, but while browsing, I came across this extreme take on Reddit and felt like I had to say something.
Here is the Reddit comment:
From this person perspective, I’m assuming, they believe that cuckolds are emotionally vulnerable people who are being taken advantage by their wife and the bull.
*Apparently this way of thought, is common but this was the most extreme opinion I could find.
As a cuck, I genuinely appreciate that person for believing they are trying to protect people like me, really I mean it, with no hate or harm to them intended, but everything they said is just wrong, in so many levels.
I’m not even mad or offended, but I have to admit it’s kind of insulting to be called mentally ill, especially when combined with so-called solutions that are so extreme and authoritarian.
Forced divorce? Forced Therapy? Those don’t work like that. I’m not even touching the other opinions with a ten-foot pole.
But they’re missing one important detail and it’s probably the main source of all this misinformation.
Cuckolding is between consensual adults. That should be the only answer I need to give and it should be enough!
Consenting adults shouldn’t have to justify their choices to anyone. But here we are.
If the argument is that cuckolds are mentally ill therefore they cannot consent, then you need to back that up with some real evidence because that’s a serious claim.
The problem with that idea is that it suggests to classify cuckolding as a disorder is based on personal opinions and social stigma than actual psychology.
That’s not how the real world works.
Here is what real psychology says about cuckolding:
Is Cuckolding a Mental disorder?
First, let’s talk about what actually counts as a mental disorder.
For something to be considered a mental disorder, it must meet specific criteria set by the recognized psychology manuals.
The two main ones are:
- DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) primarily used in the U.S.
- ICD (International Classification of Diseases) the global standard, widely used in Europe and other countries.
Both the DSM-5 and ICD-11 make it clear that simply having an unusual sexual interest does not make it a disorder.
The ICD-11 further emphasizes that a different sexual preference alone is not a disorder, unlike the DSM, which distinguishes paraphilias from paraphilic disorders but leaves more room for interpretation in its criteria.
The WGSDSH1 recommended that the grouping, Disorders of sexual preference, be renamed to Paraphilic Disorders and be limited to disorders that involve sexual arousal patterns that focus on non-consenting others or are associated with substantial distress or direct risk of injury or death.2
For a behavior or preference to be considered a mental illness, it must:
- Cause serious distress or problems in daily life (work, relationships, mental health).
- Be involuntary or uncontrollable (something the person hates but can’t stop).
- Harm others or involve non-consenting people.
Cuckolding does not meet these criteria.
So, based to the official standards that we collectively recognize as authoritative on such matters, it is clear that cuckolding is not classified as a mental illness.
Realistically, cuckolding it is best described as a sexual preference or fetish.
What About Overlapping Fetishes???
Personally I’ve never heard anyone differentiate between the other fetishes that often come with cuckolding, and I think that’s important if we are going to talk about mental disorders.
People tend to simplify what they’re into.
For example, someone with an unhealthy addiction to interracial cuckold porn might also have a BBC fetish, but they’ll simply classify themselves as a cuckold.
While it is technically correct, it doesn’t fully capture the complete picture of what they’re into, which can lead to some miscommunication when discussing it online.
Here are some other fetishes that people often link to cuckolding, but they are actually separate: (This is not a professional opinion.)
Voyeurism
Enjoying that your wife is sleeping with another man isn’t the same as being a voyeur.
Many confuse voyeurism with cuckolding because they overlap in some ways.
- A cuckold gets satisfaction knowing their wife is with someone else. Whether they watch or not is irrelevant.
- A voyeur enjoys watching others undressing or having sex, typically without being part of it.
Many people online tend to speak about these two interchangeably, as if they are the same, when they clearly aren’t.
For that reason is common for some voyeurs to think they’re cuckolds, but in reality, they just want to watch for their own sexual pleasure.
The need to watch without a deeper connection is simply voyeurism, not cuckolding.
Also, voyeurism can be considered a mental disorder if it’s not done consensually, as it involves violating boundaries and causing harm to others, such as a lack of respect, damaged trust, and feelings of discomfort, fear, or distress.
Sexual Masochism
A lot of cuckolds get turned on feeling inferior or submissive, which overlaps with sexual masochism.
Sexual masochism is when someone enjoys humiliation, pain, or discomfort.
In cuckolding, some people get turned on by feeling degraded seeing their wife with another guy.
This can be similar to masochism because it’s about enjoying that psychological discomfort.
For many cuckolds, things like verbal insults or feeling “less than” the other guy turn them on.
Not all cuckolds are into masochism, and not all masochists are into cuckolding.
Sexual masochism could be considered a mental disorder if it causes distress, messes with daily life, or if it’s non-consensual or harms others.
BBC Addiction
BBC addiction is a fetish where someone gets turned on by the idea that Big Black Cocks represent the ultimate form of masculinity.
It often plays with the stereotype that Black men are bigger, reinforcing the belief that bigger is better in both size and strength, with deep racial dynamics influencing the appeal for some.
Many with this BBC addiction submit and surrender their masculinity to guys with BBC, feeling like they don’t measure up in comparison.
The overlap with cuckolding happens because some cuckolds get off on the idea of their wife being with someone they see as superior, reinforcing their own feelings of submission.
That said, not all cuckolds are into BBC or necessary have interest about the Bull’s size.
Also, having an interest in another man’s genitalia size is not a defining trait of a cuckold.
A BBC fetish might considered a mental disorder if it leads to distress, shame, or feeling trapped in it.
When Fetishes Overlap and Blur the Lines
Cuckolding gets all the blame and is often labeled as a mental disorder, but as we’ve seen, is a legit sexual preference, and as we’ve established, it’s not a mental disorder.
Meanwhile, some of the fetishes that overlap with it can technically be classified as mental disorders when taken to the extreme.
So when cucks with these overlapping fetishes start writing crazy, extreme stuff online, is it really the cuckold fetish making them do that?
Or is it the other fetishes they’re into?
In some cuckold communities, things get so extreme that it barely even looks like cuckolding anymore.
It just becomes a mix of fetishes all thrown together under the label of cuckolding.
Some guys seem to be in it purely for humiliation, taking self-degradation to ridiculous levels, almost like it’s their full-time job.
At some point, it stops being about the wife, her pleasure, and having a good time.
Instead, it starts looking more like a cry for help.
And of course, the internet eats that up, pushing the most extreme takes and making it seem like that’s what cuckolding is.
So when someone outside the lifestyle comes across that kind of content, it’s no surprise they assume cuckolds are mentally unstable.
Because that’s all they see, the most exaggerated, over-the-top version.
And with what’s out there… can you really blame them?
Cucklusion
This post isn’t intended to gatekeep or suggest that people shouldn’t freely express themselves online with any fetish they wish to explore, including cuckolding.
That’s not my business, and I don’t judge. I just call a spade a spade. That would be hypocritical since I’m going through some of them myself.
My goal was to show people who mistakenly believe that cuckolding is a mental disorder that there are many other factors they’re probably ignoring.
They should know they’re jumping to the wrong conclusions if not considering the full picture.
And if they do, using random scientific terminology just to fit personal opinions is not only misleading it’s spreading misinformation.
Lastly, if you’re looking for a group of people who truly need your support, I’m sure there are many out there who would genuinely appreciate it.
Luckily, cuckolds aren’t the victims some people think they are, so there’s no need to put Bulls in jail or punish their wives to protect them.
But thank you <3
- Working Group on the Classification of Sexual Disorders and Sexual Health. ↩︎
- https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5487931/ ↩︎