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Before getting into it: This is just my personal blog, a cuckold blog full of insider commentary, venting, sarcasm and satirical erotic fiction.
Don’t take anything here literally, don’t follow any “guides” like it’s a real manual. Most posts mix reality with pure fantasy, exaggeration and dark humor, sometimes all at once. Read it to cope, relate, laugh or hate, whatever.
If you’re actually here trying to figure out how to start a cuckold relationship because you think my blog will help ….well, it won’t.
My blog may be pro-cuckolding but I’m not actually promoting to readers to enter the cuckold lifestyle because I genuinely believe If this was really your thing, you’d already be living it instead of reading blogs for permission and advice. No amount of reading will force something in a relationship that isn’t there naturally.
This blog was made with 3 goals in mind:
- For me to express my self freely on this taboo subject.
- Explain the real emotions and motivations so outsiders can see why it can be valid for some of us. (with my unfiltered opinions)
- Connect with others who are already in the lifestyle.
That’s it. Keep reading if you want.
The Core of Cuckolding: Compersion
Cuckolding is consensual non-monogamy where the cuckold gets off on his partner sleeping with someone else (the Bull), but the key point is that it comes from compersion.
In simple words: It’s her happiness that makes you happy.
Think of compersion as the opposite of jealousy but it doesn’t replace jealousy, it works beside it. That conflicting mix of feelings is the fuel of the cuckold fetish.
Jealousy as you know hurts but compersion feels good, it’s a hard feeling to explain, and there’s more to it, like the element of pride and relief that comes with it.
A simple analogy is eating spicy food. Some absolutely hate it, but some love it with passion, because the thrill they get from that delicious pain/burn it gives with every bite.
Cuckolding is in the same way, it mixes pain and pleasure and in a sense, that’s what really is.
The Dark Side of Cuckolding
There are way too many negatives to list in one short paragraph, and pretending they don’t exist is delusional. I’ll probably write a full post about them one day, but for now let me say this:
What really annoys me is how the entire “cuckold lifestyle” online has been hijacked by porn.
Almost everything you see is staged humiliation, interracial stereotypes, sissy captions, and lonely guys jerking off to self-hatred. That version turns compersion into a joke and makes the whole thing look like an emasculation fetish for chronic masturbators instead of a (sometimes) functional consensual relationship.
That porn version isn’t cuckolding but a caricature designed to sell clips and keep lonely dudes subscribed. It has almost nothing to do with how real couples who live this actually feel or operate.
Recognizing the difference is the first step to not getting completely screwed up by the fantasy version, or hating and judging real people based on that fake, toxic caricature.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What is Cuckolding?
Cuckolding is a consensual kink where a partner finds pleasure and arousal from their significant other having sex with someone else. It’s an experience that is often a mix of emotional states, including compersion (joy from a partner’s pleasure) and jealousy.
For a full breakdown, read The Cuckold Manifesto: A Reality Check.
How is Cuckolding Different from Cheating?
Cuckolding is the opposite of cheating. It is based on mutual consent and honesty, whereas cheating involves lying and deception. Cuckolding can be used to build intimacy and trust within a relationship, not to replace or destroy it.
We explore this topic in detail in our post Debunking 13 Common Cuckold Misconceptions.
What’s the psychology of cuckolding?
The psychology of cuckolding is complex and highly personal, often involving a mix of emotions like compersion and jealousy. Other factors that can influence a cuckold’s desires include power exchange, taboo fantasies, or a craving for novelty.
You can learn more about this in the post: Cuckold Psychology: Key Reasons and How to Handle It.
Does Cuckolding Involve Porn Addiction?
No, the belief that porn addiction leads to cuckolding is a common misunderstanding. Many cuckold communities have fetishized cuckolding to the point that it distorts the reality of what the lifestyle is actually about.
Read the related article: Porn Addiction Doesn’t Create Cucks.
Why won’t my wife cuck me?
The simple answer is that she may not want to. Cuckolding isn’t a fantasy you can convince your partner into. A healthy cuckold dynamic is based on mutual desire and enthusiastic consent, not pressure or manipulation. It’s a personal journey that requires both of you to want it.
For a full breakdown of this topic, read This Is Why Your Wife Won’t Cuck You.
How do you deal with jealousy in a cuckold relationship?
Jealousy is a drug. It’s a very real and often painful emotion that’s part of the dynamic for many cuckolds. You don’t “deal” with it so much as you learn to navigate it. The high comes from a mix of that jealousy and compersion, and this is the fuel for the cuckold fantasy. But it demands radical honesty and clear boundaries to keep things from getting out of control.
We discuss this topic in detail in our article: Cuckolding Is Not About the Sex.