Here’s the most common burning question that wannabe cucks ask:
How to ask your girlfriend to cuckold you?
The answer is so simple in theory, yet at the same time, its so incredibly difficult to find the courage to actually do it.
What better advice could I give you than simply being honest about your feelings and telling her?
I genuinely believe that honest, direct communication is the best approach for EVERYTHING!
But..!
Cuckolding, is such a taboo that an unaware wife or girlfriend, upon hearing the words, “I would love to see you sleeping with other men,” will trigger every defense mechanism she has.
She will probably reject the idea outright because she won’t be able to comprehend what kind of needs led you to the point of asking her to sleep with other men.
So, when wannabe cucks ask: how to ask their girlfriend to cuckold them, they are instinctively aware of this.
The deeper meaning of that question is: How can they ask her to cuckold them with the highest chances of success?
Disclaimer: This is just THEORY not something to follow verbatim! Every relationship is different, so use this as an informational reference, not a guide. There is no guide out there that knows your girlfriend better than you. Adapt it to what works for you.
Let’s see what strategies you can follow for you finally pop the question to your girlfriend.
Subtlety And Patience
You should first understand the reasoning why it’s important to introduce cuckolding subtly into your relationship, and not directly, in most cases.
The difference between you and your girlfriend is that you’ve had time to think about cuckolding.
You’ve had plenty of time to reflect, you went through all the stages of cuckold acceptance, and ultimately had ages with no outside pressure to decide and accept that cuckolding is not just a phase for you.
Your girlfriend, is completely unaware of all this.
She didn’t have the privilege of time to think it over.
Dropping a bombshell like this is not only shocking, but it will probably bring up other negative emotions like disgust, betrayal, even sadness, among others.
All these feelings can arise because the idea of sleeping with another man conflicts with her moral code and how she was brought up to be a good girl/wife.
She is conditioned to see it as something negative.
Your girlfriend isn’t a cheater, she loves you and sees sex as an emotional connection. She doesn’t differentiate it the way you do.
You’re asking her to go against everything she believes in.
Asking her to sleep with other men is essentially telling her to stop having feelings that makes her the person she is.
You can understand how unreasonable of request that is.
Obviously, to avoid putting her in the awkward position where she feels she has no other option but to decline when you finally ask about cuckolding, the best strategy is to introduce the cuckold concept gradually and with care.
TIP: Technically in a healthy relationship you don’t need help and tactics to ask your gf, you just ask.
Here is how to do it:
Cuck-Inception: Planting the Idea in Her Mind
The first step is to gently plant the seed of the idea of cuckolding in to her mind.
The reason you are doing this is not necessary to increase the chances of her saying “yes” but to help remove the initial shock and probably alleviate some of the negative feelings as well when you finally ask her.
You can’t really move forward if cuckolding is something that alien to her mind to the point that will negatively shock her.
Normalizing cuckolding to her eyes is the best and most logical first step.
Big Note: Normalizing does not mean her accepting it or even liking it.
Manipulation: Please be aware, this is not about manipulation to get what you want. This advice is about introducing cuckolding in a natural and ethical way. If you think manipulating her into sleeping with other men is a good idea, then I’m sorry to say you’re in it for the completely wrong reasons. But if you do, In the long run you will see first hand the negative effects.
The end goal is to take the whole concept of cuckolding in all it forms, negatives and positives and make her completely aware of them, so it would stop being alien to her.
There are many ways you can do this, and what follows are just a few ideas among the many possible ones.
Different ideas will work differently on different people. So, what follows might be bad for your relationship but good for another relationship.
There are no secret shortcuts to this, so don’t fool yourself with false promises from random people online.
You can’t copy others success because their relationship is different than yours.
Keep in mind, everything said here is assuming you are going to play the long game.
You need to start with the basics. Here’s how:
1. Use “Cuck” as a Negative Word Daily in Your Conversations
Using the word cuck negatively might seem contradictory to your intended goals but it can be one of the easiest indirect ways to keep the idea of cuckolding actively alive in her mind.
I know this strategy might be controversial, so it’s up to you.
Here is my reasoning for it:
Bringing up cuckolding out of the blue in random conversations may seem weird to her, especially if it’s something you never done before.
She might view it with caution and skepticism.
It can also be difficult to naturally bring it up often enough to normalize it for her.
This is something I’ve done myself. When discussing with my wife, if I wanted to talk down about another guy, I would call them a cuck as an insult.
- If she doesn’t know what it means, she’ll sooner or later ask.
- If/when she does know, hearing you use this word so casually it makes the cuckold concept more familiar and common, therefore normalizing it in her mind.
2. Stay Open-Minded with Her
You’re a wannabe cuckold, so of course, you’re as open-minded as they come.
But she doesn’t know just how open-minded you really are.
Show her! By discussing hypotheticals with open-ended questions and/or philosophize them.
The reason is to encourage her to reflect on the cuckold idea without feeling pressured into doing anything.
For example, you can say things such:
- it must be nice to be a cuck to no have feelings of jealousy.
- Low-key, being a cuck must be kinda freeing.
- If you had to guess, what do you think makes a guy actually enjoy it?
- The wife is the true winner, no?
Use humor and let her play along, the less judgmental and accepting you seem about it, the easier it is for her to be also less judgmental and more open to the idea.
This is also a good opportunity to find out her limits on what is acceptable and what not.
The more negative opinion she has the longer you have to play the game.
Reasoning: Imagine if she thinks the worst about cuckolds. Its obvious not a good idea to come out as one. Wait it out. Harsh opinions tend to soften over time.
3. Subtle Suggestions
The possibilities are endless, depending on how open-minded or kinky your wife is to hypothetical scenarios and fantasy talk.
You could say something like in a humorous way:
“Babe, if you ever have thoughts of cheating on me, please cuckold me instead.”
This is just a playful way to show her the contrast between being cheated on, which would hurt you, and being cucked, which would not.
If she ever thought that cheating = cuckolding (common misconception) the message is now loud and clear that they are completely different, at least to you, and she’ll understand that.
or even something like:
“If you were to cheat on me with this guy [implying he is hot], I wouldn’t even be mad”
It shows her that she won’t have to feel guilty if she sleeps with another man who you at least consider “better” than you.
These are only random examples, but you get the gist of it.
The goal isn’t to force her into making a choice or to try to “sell” cuckolding as something amazing.
It’s to help her realize that since cuckolding is natural/common and her husband seems completely open-minded about it, then maybe… just maybe, it could be a possibility for her as well if it’s something she wants.
Reasoning: If you try to push cuckolding on her, it might have the opposite effect. The chances of success are much higher if it’s something she’s genuinely curious about and since you’re so open-minded, you are creating a space where she feels comfortable considering it.
4. Consistency is Everything But There is a Time-Limit
You need to stay consistent. There are no shortcuts or tricks and if you doing nothing, hope won’t help you get cucked.
As a wannabe cuck, sooner or later you will feel the impatience building up, especially the longer you keep it a secret from her.
The more you hide it, the more pressure it creates, and it can get harder to bear.
There will come a point when you’ll feel the need to tell her.
If you’re lucky and your girlfriend is perceptive enough, she’ll pick up on the hints you’re dropping
Depending on her personality, she might ask you about it straight out.
If that’s the case, consider yourself lucky and have an honest discussion about it. She saved you from all the anxiety and stress of waiting for the right moment to ask her yourself.
If not, it’s super important to never rush things.
But keep in mind you can’t just be doing this forever.
Hopefully you had enough time to normalize cuckolding to her when that point comes.
The difference now with before, is that if you played your cards rights, she will not be shocked by it.
The Right Moment and Environment to Tell Her
There is no really right or wrong way to come out as a cuckold, but nothing beats complete honesty and crystal clear communications about your wants and needs.
A good idea though its to do it in the right environment.
Imagine bringing it up on a workday when she’s busy and dealing with other daily stress.
Asking her to cuckold you, in that moment could be overwhelming for her.
The best environment to come out as a cuckold is in my opinion is during vacations.
You’re away from the daily routine, in a beautiful place where you both feel adventurous and free to do whatever you want.
You will have so many chances to ask her to cuckold you then, but courage is what you are probably missing.
An easy fix for that is to bring it up during sex, when you’re horny and might say or do things you could later regret.
Of course, it might sound like just fantasy talk to her and not lead anywhere, but it’s a big step to the right direction.
You should definitely follow it up by taking her to a nice restaurant or bar to have a serious conversation about it.
Drink enough alcohol to get the courage and speak openly.
She might be surprised, or maybe she saw it coming.
She could have questions or not fully understand why, but the conversation definitely won’t be in a negative way about her being in shock or in disgust.
Congratulations you finally asked you girlfriend to cuckold you.
Cuckolding Is Not for Everyone
All those dreams and fantasy scenarios you made up in your mind are now going to disappear, the reality will finally set in.
Your girlfriend might be excited, not interested at all, or somewhere in between.
Cuckolding, like any other lifestyle choice, isn’t for everyone.
You can only hope she sees it the way you do, but you can’t expect her to sleep with other men just because you think she “benefits” the most from this situation.
It doesn’t work like that.
Unfortunately your girlfriend might just not be interested, and that’s just the reality you will have to accept.
Being married or dating a cuckold isn’t something most women dream about, don’t confuse yourself with fetishized talk online.
Be aware: Just because you’ve normalized cuckolding to her and she doesn’t freak out when hearing about it, doesn’t mean she sees it in a positive light.
She’ll likely have many concerns about it, but with time and patience, you may be able to help her reconsider.
What I’m trying to say is, asking your girlfriend to cuckold you is just the beginning of the story for many wannabe cuckolds.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
If you’re one of the lucky few and find yourself in the opposite scenario, the best-case scenario, where your girlfriend shows interest to cuckold you, try to avoid making these common mistakes:
The biggest mistake is asking her to sleep with a specific type of man, like black guys with BBC, which is a common cuckold “request.”
Guys with BBC are your fantasy, not hers.
You need to understand that she should have the freedom to choose anyone she likes.
She already has a type, and that type is probably someone who resembles you, since she’s married to you.
So even though you might feel that a guy with BBC could provide her the best sexual experience, that doesn’t matter to her.
Basic mistakes, like being too pushy or lacking patience, are obvious and I won’t waste time on them.
Another big mistake cuckolds make, is assuming that if she seems positive but isn’t acting on it, she’s ready to go sleeping around.
That could mean she just needs more time, or that she’s only pretending to be okay with it to keep you happy.
Don’t jump to conclusions. If she really is interested and ready, she’ll show it in her own time.
The last common mistake I’ll address (there are so many that they deserve their own post) is the wannabe cuckold trying to control the situation.
Who she sleeps with, what sexual positions they get into, where, and how …just don’t.
Let her do it at her own pace and in a way that feels comfortable for her.
The only thing you should really be in control is her safety when she is planning meeting some guy.
There is No Going Back
Once you open Pandora’s box, there’s no going back.
Be aware that conservative women or generally women with a low body count can sometimes undergo a dramatic shift after experiencing sex with “better” men than you, in a controlled environment like cuckolding offers.
I’m talking about a transformation so intense that their entire perspective on sexuality can change.
Her opinion about you will probably also change.
Once you come out as a cuckold to your girlfriend, even if you regret it or don’t feel like one later, and even if she never cucked you, she’ll always see you that way, a cuckold.You’ll forever be a cuck in her eyes, and nothing more.Click to Post
She may even develop feelings for the Bull because, unlike women with a higher body count, she might not have the experience to separate sex from emotions, which could lead to potential misunderstandings.
But developing feelings for the Bull isn’t necessarily a big issue for many cucks, that’s just a part of the journey.
But while it may seem exciting at first, it can evolve into something much deeper, where most cucks may not be prepared for the emotional complexity that follows.
Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Be careful what you wish for because you might actually get it.
Cucklusion
I feel the main problem with guys asking how to get their girlfriend to cuckold them is that they haven’t created the right build-up to bring it up.
If you’re uncomfortable telling your girlfriend or wife something like this, then obviously it’s too early to get into such a lifestyle. Work on your relationship!
You cant blindly rush into something that could create discomfort or resentment in your relationship because of lust and fantasy.
Focus on gradual conversations, consistency, and patience and if you are lucky, then …maybe she will consider it.
If this is truly something you want you and your girlfriend to experience, then give her time, respect, and all the boundaries she needs, because in the end, this is only possible by her choice.