My dear wannabe Bulls,
In my personal experience, many men online who call themselves Bulls have no idea how to engage with a cuckold couple.
Because of that, regardless of how much potential they have, they can’t capitalize on their strengths so they can’t progress to the next stage of meeting up.
Sure, some of you might get lucky here and there, but luck shouldn’t play any role in this.
You should be getting consistent, reliable results. Otherwise, you’re no different from the countless horny guys searching and sex chatting online.
Luckily for all of us, I’m here to help you fix that.
In this article, I’m going to show you how to not only build a harem of hotwives but also reach a point where you barely have time for them all.
I know, it sounds too good to be true.
And no, I’m not making you any promises. This is just my opinion and theory but it’s straight from a cuckold’s point of view.
How you use this information is up to you.
Random Guy + Sex = Bull ?
While the role of the Bull isn’t that complicated, a surprising large number of guys still fail to grasp what it actually means.
A common misconception is that the only thing a cuckold couple wants from a Bull is sex, sex, and more sex.
If you believe that’s all there is to it, then it’s time to go back to the basics, and in that case, I strongly recommend reading The Bull’s Guide to Cuckold Relationships.
Think about it logically: if sex is the only thing a Bull brings to the table, then how is he any different from any random guy?
Because let’s be real, casual sex is really easy to find.
A cuckold couple can walk into any bar, pub, or club, and the wife could find a lover that same night without breaking a sweat.
So why do we still use the label Bull interchangeably with just some random guy?
Stop the Self-Sabotage
Understating that sex is not the main strength you have to offer should help you realize that your usual way of conversation with cuckolds online probably is flawed.
What do I mean by that?
Many so-called Bulls treat conversations with cuckolds as transactional and focused only on short-term gratification, rather than building a connection that could benefit them in the long run.
To them, the cuckold is nothing more than a tool to get to the wife.
Here is the problem with this attitude:
When you treat the cuck like he’s disposable you give him no reason to be loyal to you.
Why should he stick around or advocate for you when it’s clear you don’t respect him?
Cuckolds rely on trust, respect, and emotional intelligence.
If you act like you’re above the cuck or see him as irrelevant, you’re not acting like a Bull.
You’re acting like just another horny guy who just doesn’t get it.
You literally have a wing-man who’s eager to help you and you’re out here like, “Nah, I want this on extra hard difficulty.”
So forget what you’ve seen in porn or read online from horny people who just repeat their fantasies.
Cuckolding is a consensual fetish. That means the husband has a say.
If he doesn’t like you, for any reason, then you’re out. Period.
Don’t Be Replaceable
I hope it’s clear now that only offering sex is not that important as you think.
It’s only one part of cuckolding.
Another part is the psychological aspect.
If you are focusing only on the sex part of it, you are providing an incomplete experience to that couple.
In such situation the cuckold is probably just tolerating you because you are a necessary part of their fantasy, but if there’s no emotional connection, he has no reason to suggest his wife invite you back especially when there are other options available.
Therefore you are easily replaceable when another “better” Bull appears.
So why put yourself in a position where you’re easily replaced?
Why not adjust your mindset so you wont’ be? Its not rocket science.
The Long-Term Value
You need to stop chasing the short term sexual satisfaction from cuckold couples and focus on the long term value you can benefit from.
Let me give you an insider cuckold POV: What do you think is more attractive?
A Bull who has a steady rotation of hotwives and couples who keep coming back to him… or a “Bull” who’s struggling to find someone new?
If you only focus on the short-term, even when you do succeed, you always end up right back at square one: A solo Bull, searching again.
But if you focus on building real connections with couples, you open the door to something better such as repeated invites by having a real place in their relationship.
Think about it like this:
Short-Term:
You find a couple, have your fun, and then it’s over.
It’s fun for a night or two but they moved on and you’re back to swiping, messaging, and hoping.
Long-Term:
You find a couple and actually connect with them.
Now they want you back again and again. You’re not just a one-time thing, you are part of their relationship.
See the difference?
Focus on the long term game with multiple couples, and there, you now in theory you can have a harem of hotwives.
In theory this sounds easy but in practice this could be difficult if you don’t know where to start and what to do.
Become the Cuckold’s Preferred Bull
Now that we’ve established why long-term value matters, the next question is:
How do you make a cuckold actually want you around?
In my opinion? The best way is to befriend him.
The cuckold holds a lot of influence in his relationship even if he’s not the one making the final decision.
Considering how competitive the Bull role can be, having him as a wing-man is one of the biggest advantages you can have over the other Bulls.
If he’s on your side, he’ll advocate for you, smooth things over, and keep you in the picture.
It would be an amateur mistake to not use that to your advantage.
How Do You Actually Befriend Him?
Don’t bother with the usual small talk like “How’s your day going?”
That is boring, forgettable and not how real bonds are built.
If you want to stand out from other Bulls, find something you have in common where you both can enjoy and connect over.
A shared interest, a hobby, or even a game.
For example, if you’re into gaming, playing something like World of Warcraft or whatever you enjoy puts you in a place where you’re consistently interacting with the cuckold.
You’re not just just another random message in his inbox anymore but you’re actively spending time together.
That kind of shared experience naturally builds familiarity, trust and respect because you are now a part of the same team and not a random guy he has to tolerate.
Also being in discord voice (instead of text), dealing with in-game challenges or even getting frustrated together, are the most important moments you can create together.
Because those are the moments that will actually help you bond, not some mechanically crafted overused messages you think the cuckold wants to hear.
Real connection comes from breaking down walls over time and showing your true personalities through how you react in those shared experiences.
its all matter of time when the bond will just get stronger and stronger.
Note: I’m not saying you have to play video games with a cuckold. That’s just a random example. It’s up to you to find something you genuinely have in common. But I hope it’s clear how much stronger the bond can be when you share real experiences which casual texting alone can never match.
Mistakes To Avoid
It’s important to understand just how much of a disadvantage you’re at if you keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again and fail to recognize them.
The following mistakes are just the tip of the iceberg and there are plenty more I could think of but I don’t want to lose the main point of the article.
Here are some common mistakes you might want to consider fixing:
Manipulation Tactics
Some guys, under the pretense of being a “Bull,” say whatever they think the cuckold wants to hear to get to the wife.
They put on a mask and play the role as best they can.
But here’s the thing: most cuckolds have been around long enough, talked to enough people, and seen enough behavior to spot the fakes.
If you rely on manipulation, you will sooner or later get exposed.
Nobody can play this game perfectly forever, and eventually, the truth will come out.
My personal rule: Everyone is lying until they prove otherwise.
Stop Selling Yourself
Many make the mistake of trying to “pitch” themselves to the cuckold trying to prove they’re the best possible match for the wife.
That’s a terrible approach.
It completely misses the point of cuckolding and undermines the wife’s desires and preferences, as it reduces her to an object for the sexual satisfaction of the “Bull,” with the cuck acting as a mediator between them.
It’s impersonal. It’s transactional. And it’s exactly what turns most couples off.
Poor Communication Skills
I guess this is not really a mistake, but is a huge turn off.
Clear and respectful communication is essential for building trust and setting boundaries.
A Bull who struggles with communication, such as giving vague answers, being unclear about intentions, or failing to hold meaningful conversations, makes it difficult to form a connection.
Good communication is the foundation for succeeding or failing as a Bull.
There’s nothing more of a vibe killer than awkward silence because the Bull can’t keep up a conversation.
Coming on Too Strong
One of the fastest ways to get rejected is by ignoring, testing, or pushing hard the couple’s boundaries.
Bringing up sex too soon or trying to “skip the talking phase,” shows you’re not taking it seriously.
Messaging constantly, pushing for a meetup right away, or acting like you’re entitled to the wife’s time is a huge turn-off.
Different couples have different boundaries and they should be respected.
Play it cool and don’t put the couple in the awkward position which is definitely going to get you ghosted.
Let the connection build naturally, if that’s not what you are looking for, then this is not for you.
The Correct Bull Mentality
Yes we know, your goal is to sleep with the cuck’s wife.
Believe me, if a cuckold is giving you his time, that’s probably his hope too.
That part’s already a given so there’s no need to keep repeating it anymore.
Going on and on about how badly you want her gets old really fast.
It’s also a boring way to hold a conversation and shows a lack of depth.
What matters more is the kind of man you are.
- Are you someone who can be trusted?
- Do you bring good energy, patience, and clear communication?
- Can you connect with the couple and respect their relationship?
Because if you can’t even hold a decent, down-to-earth conversation, why would anyone bring you into something this personal and vulnerable?
And if you’re serious about being a bull, your mindset needs to reflect that.
Focus on these points instead, and you’ll be playing in a whole different league compared to all the wannabe bulls online.
Cucklusion
The main goal is to stop relying on luck and start increasing your odds by creating more opportunities.
More opportunities will arise when you stop chasing and start connecting with people.
Not every interaction will lead to something, but cuckolds talk.
Even a bad conversation could lead you later to a better one.
The long game will work in your favor sooner or later and statistically, it’s just a matter of time.
If you’re a cuckold and this resonates with you, send it to the wannabe Bulls who keep making these mistakes with you.
Who knows, it might actually help them.