I’m really tired of wasting my time on men who call themselves “Bulls” but clearly have no clue what it actually means.

I was on a local forum discussing cuckolding, and I expressed my frustration with guys misunderstanding the role of a Bull.

A Bull isn’t just some random guy who sleeps with hotwives.

The assumption that a hotwife is just a slut willing to sleep with any available man is beyond insulting, yet so many seem to believe exactly that.

One guy even tried to manipulate and guilt-trip me (classic move) for having high standards about what I want in a Bull.

His argument? I should “take a risk”, trust him and lower my standards because I’ll never find what I’m looking for otherwise.

Well, guess what? If that’s the case, I’d rather not find anyone.

The idea that I should take some random guy with no images, no reputation, and no understanding of the cuckold lifstyle seriously?

Embarrassing. Truly.

In this article, I want to help future reasonable potential Bulls maximize their opportunities to connect with as many hotwives as possible.

The Struggles of Finding a Real Bull

As a cuckold who takes on the primary role of finding a Bull in our relationship, the challenges I have encountered so far stem from these factors:

• Unreliable Profiles: Many individuals online may claim to be interested in the Bull lifestyle but lack seriousness or follow-through.
• Exhausting Vetting Process: Sorting through countless potential matches and having repeated conversations that lead nowhere can wear down even the most enthusiastic couples.
• Limited Availability: Depending on location, finding someone compatible and nearby can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack.

What do Cuckolds Search For?

Bulls who are genuinely interested in this lifestyle can stand out by being proactive, approachable, and visible across multiple online platforms.

As a cuckold I search for these 3 things in a potential Bull as a starting point.

• Location: Proximity is non-negotiable and even though traveling is an option it;s an extra difficulty barrier. Couples are unlikely to pursue connections with someone who lives too far away.
• Looks: Appearance is subjective, and both the cuck and their partner may have different preferences. This dual perspective can work in your favor, as it increases your chances of appealing to one or both partners.
• Personality: Effective communication and a trustworthy demeanor are essential. The cuckold need to feel comfortable and confident in your intentions. Being respectful, serious, discreet and approachable goes a long way in building trust.

Looks and personality are mostly subjective preferences, so there will always be couples who are into you and others who are not.

Here’s the twist: at least for me, those traits are secondary when it comes to location. (This is not necessarily the case for my wife, though.)

If there is a lack of Bulls nearby, we might be willing to compromise.

I have been in contact with Bulls who were local, even though they would not have been our first pick.

The only real advantage these Bulls had over others was their proximity, even though others had better qualities such as looks, reputation, or “equipment.”

Take Advantage of The Lack of Available Bulls

Depending on your location, the availability of Bulls might be one of the main reasons couples either engage rarely only with Bulls far away or decide not to participate in the lifestyle at all.

Availability isn’t just about numbers; it’s about finding someone who meets essential criteria such as proximity, compatibility, and mutual interest.

Cuckolding, while often viewed as taboo, is more common than you might think.

There are many cuckold couples you would never suspect are part of this lifestyle.

They could be right under your nose, maybe living just a block away, but neither of you is aware of the other’s existence.

You need to change that.

As a Bull, it’s essential to make these couples aware that you are nearby and available.

They might not be looking for someone like you initially, and at first glance, they may not even be interested.

However, by playing the long-term game and using your location to your advantage, you can stay on their radar.

Over time, they may reconsider and decide to contact you.

When that happens, it’s up to you to play your cards right.

Show them why you are a great fit by avoiding all the common red flags and they will keep coming.

You can either become another unsatisfactory match, or, if you are knowledgeable and skilled enough, you can turn that initial contact into a lasting connection.

I’m here hoping to help you be knowledgeable enough. Do you even know what is a Bull?

The Platforms to Use to Find Cuckold Couples

I believe the best approach is to create a public profile on platforms where cuckold couples are actively searching.

This increases your visibility and makes it easier for them to find and connect with you, even if you’re not actively reaching out yourself.

If you live in a small country with few Bulls competing for attention, guess who the cuckold couples are going to contact?

It’s going to be the only Bull they can see (and trust).

For some reason, many guys don’t take advantage of this.

Instead, they waste time chatting aimlessly with random accounts on forums, Reddit, or other social platforms like Twitter.

What a waste of time and energy.

As a cuckold, there is no room for me to take risks that could put my wife in an awkward, unpleasant, or even dangerous situation.

Random men online who simply say what they think the cuckold wants to hear are ultimately just a waste of time.

Reputation and credibility are built over time, not with empty promises or insincere behavior.

The only thing required is to demonstrate that you are serious about this lifestyle.

Building a name or “brand” for yourself is the only way to stand out from time-wasters.

You’re probably already using platforms like Twitter, Reddit, or others.

The key is to use them better for your cause and to your (our) benefit.

Recommended Platforms

Some platforms, like FetLife, are undoubtedly better suited for this purpose.

However, in small areas like mine, FetLife isn’t popular or used, so relying on it doesn’t provide the significant social boost one might hope for.

Speaking from my personal experience, here are the platforms I’ve found most effective:

Porn sites.

Porn sites with verification options are a great starting point.

Platforms like Pornhub, XVideos, and xHamster allow you to verify your profile and upload videos.

Verification adds credibility, which is essential for building trust.

These websites also offer location-based member searches, making it easier for cuckolds in your area to find you.

Consider uploading a video that showcases your strengths, whether it’s your athletic physique, big biceps, or other standout features.

Choose content you’re comfortable with, as it will represent you to potential connections.

Forums

There are excellent forums dedicated to the cuckold lifestyle, such as Blacktowhite and OurHotwives.

If you create a profile on these forums, make sure to write posts that clearly state what you’re looking for and include a location.

This can make it easier for cucks to find you, either directly on the forum or through Google searches using relevant keywords.

Social networks

Social media platforms like Reddit, Twitter, Bluesky and others are excellent for communication and interaction.

The problem with them, it’s easy to get lost in the noise if you don’t use them actively.

These platforms are great for building some level of authority in the lifestyle.

By staying active, engaging with relevant communities, and posting meaningful content, you can create a strong presence that attracts the right audience.

Onlyfans

OnlyFans is another excellent platform.

If you are verified on OnlyFans, it signals that you are serious and authentic.

Their verification process is thorough, which builds trust and, for someone like me, adds credibility.

The downside of OnlyFans is its limited search functionality.

This can be addressed by using external OnlyFans member search directories such onlysearch, which make it easier for couples to find you.

What You Should Expect from the Cuckold Couple

Wannabe cuckolds and other time-wasters are also an issue and as a Bull you should demand the same requirements from them.

These individuals may show interest initially but lack the seriousness, commitment, or follow-through required for genuine engagement in the lifestyle.

I can’t tell you exactly what you, as the Bull, should require from them to ensure they won’t waste your time.

This is something you will develop and refine over time as you gain more experience and learn what works best for you.

What I can provide as an example are the steps we took as a cuckold couple to demonstrate to potential Bulls that we are serious and committed to the lifestyle:

• Created an OnlyFans Account: My wife made an OnlyFans account. Not to show off or make money or even create content, but to verify we are real and demonstrate that she’s taking this seriously and genuinely means business.
• Established Profiles on Relevant Platforms: We created verified profiles on platforms where we hope to connect with Bulls, such as Pornhub and Blacktowhite.
• Verified with Images: We provide photo-images that include a handwritten note displaying our social profile username. This ensures authenticity and reassures potential Bulls that we’re real.
• Open to Phone Conversations: We (my wife) are ready to have phone conversations to build a connection, check for matching vibes, and establish mutual comfort before taking the next step.

These actions not only help establish trust but also filter out those who aren’t genuinely interested, saving time for both sides.

Cucklusion

Trust is a major factor, and it is particularly difficult to place that trust in someone who does not have much to show for their credibility.

For example, if I were to find a Bull who already has videos with cuckold couples on Pornhub, I would immediately think, “This guy seems great.”

On the other hand, if I am talking to a random 0-karma person on Reddit who confirms their photos are real, there would still be lingering caution in the back of my mind, making me second-guess everything.

Trust and credibility go a long way in building confidence for both sides.

Build a social presence, and with time and consistency, cuckold couples will start reaching out to you directly in your DMs.

This is simply the natural flow of how things work.