Getting cucked sounds so easy in theory. As if every woman is a cheating slut that would jump on the chance to sleep with random guys. That’s definitely not the case.
Your wife is attracted to other men, but attractiveness alone is not enough to make her want to sleep around.
At some point you will reach a point where you talked with your wife and you are both willing to give it a try. (or not)
The biggest problem you are going to face is finding the right Bull.
In your first steps, as a cuckold, you cannot sit back and hope your wife magically finds a boyfriend. That only works if she is already eager and outgoing. Most of the time, you have to make it happen.
Giving her the option of choice makes both of your lives a lot easier to start.
So as a cuck your biggest contribution on making this happen is Bull hunting!
Here is how it goes:
Finding The Bull
Unless your wife picks up random men at bars or similar places, you are going to search online for Bulls most of the time.
This is a full time job for the cuck, because most men claiming to be bulls, are fake. Heck, even most cuckolds are fake. So it takes time, experience and developing skills to filter out the time wasters.
The thing is, there are many men who want to enter this lifestyle as Bulls, but they do not understand the role they say they can fill.
So your cuckold job is that you need to audit and verify they are safe, reasonable, discreet, know what you/they want and make sure no serious red flags are there.
In this search, the cuck looks for the type of guy he has fantasized for his wife. It may sound weird, but cuckolds have a type of man they are into. (for the wife)
For example, I would not want a guy who I consider weaker/shorter/less masculine than me to replace me sexually in my relationship. It would not feel right to me, so obviously I would not even flirt with the idea.
This can turn into a real problem for many because some set such high standards for Bulls that are unrealistic and cannot find anyone in the end.
So unless you are willing to reasonably compromise and reduce those standards into something more realistic, you will never move on from “searching” phase, so be aware of that.
The other thing cuckolds ignore when searching this Bull is that their wife has a completely different type of man in her mind for this “job“.
You will probably be surprised when you find out she prefers that average height/dick and chubby guy, rather than that hot tall masculine guy with abs and huge dick.
That is because you value different traits different from her, but that is something you need to discuss, or your search is going to be pointless because you are searching a guy you want and not your wife.
Obviously the wife will always have the last word, so the cuckold best bet is finding a plethora of potential Bulls of his liking, which is a calculated tactic, because you turn it into a numbers game. This way, the probabilities of the wife liking someone who the cuckold approves increases over time of finding a match.
At least that’s the logic I see in it.
Talking With The Bull
Then you get to talk. Usually it is the cuck who speaks with him first, because finding the Bulls is not enough. He needs to be audited.
The cuckold should keep it clear and straight to the point. Figure out if he is a good match with the wife, and if he is, then introduce him to her. That is all it needs to be done.
The discussion should not be about sex talk or getting into details about what he will do with your wife sexually.
Many cucks and random guys, who claim they are Bulls, mistake this part as an excuse of sexting or some other form of validation because they usually do this kind of talk only when they are horny. Rookie mistake.
This is counterproductive for many reasons that I cannot get in now, but clearly the men you are looking for, are not going to have fantasy sex chats with other men.
The goal of the audit is so the wife not having to go through the stress and wasting her time with random fakes online. It can be very demoralizing to speak with the 10th fake Bull in a day, so the cuck has to be the one to suffer this instead.
When you find the right one, your wife gets to speak with him and see if there is any chemistry.
If there is, it is a good idea to keep in touch for a while, with phone conversations to build some kind of rapport.
And if she is into him, you will see her be excited about meeting him, which is the best case scenario in this, if not, then move to the next one.
Meeting For The First Time
Rule #1: First meet = always in public.
Hotel bar is ideal because it is neutral and safe, and if the vibe clicks, the room is one elevator ride away.
You also need to show up as a couple. No solo drop offs, or “I’ll wait in the car.” This is a three way audition.
Leaving her alone at this stage is reckless. What if she changes her mind mid drink? What if he is a catfish? What if the vibe is off?
Even if he is exactly who he claimed, chemistry is not guaranteed and ten minutes face to face is going to tell you way more than some text messages.
What you are looking to achieve here is: Figure out any potential red flags and walk away if any doubt arises, or have a great night, maybe even inviting him to your room (or a confident reschedule).
The meeting should not necessarily be about sex, and that should be made clear from the start.
A hesitant wife might have her worries and might need more time. The meeting at a bar is just a way to humanize that screen name, which removes many elements of mystery. This makes the reschedule a confident date with a clear goal in mind instead of starting it with the stress of the unknown.
The Date
The day is finally here. You are going to get what you want.
You booked a hotel room, you bought your wife sexy clothes, you did the talk, probably shared some code words or signals for safety and you both excited.
You think you thought everything up. But …nope, nothing ever goes as planned, never forget that.
It can be awkward. Your wife is probably going to be shy with him, the Bull could also be uncomfortable, and the reason for that is you in the room waiting to watch your “show.”
You should leave them alone for a while to give them time without the stress they have to perform for you.
You watching them, should be the last item in your priority list.
You have done everything you could. Now there is nothing more you can do, other than to be a good wing man and a good husband, by being more of a passive support by not being there.
After a while, they could potentially let you watch, especially on the first dates. Once the sex breaks the ice between them, that mix of novelty and awkwardness fades, and you will likely be invited in because you are there to make sure she is safe and having a good time and they respect that knowing also you would like to watch. It is like their thanks to you for making this possible.
Other than that, do not have the expectation that you have any main role in their date. You might need validation, but the first date is for them, not you, get your validation after. The date hour is sacred.
After The Date
This is where the realization will hit both of you. During their date, watching them for a first time was probably a surreal experience.
Now that the rush is over, jealousy will kick in and probably other feelings maybe of insecurities. At the same time, your wife might feel guilty, distant, or even empowered. Every person reacts differently but you should know your wife and how to support her through this.
What you really need to do is talk about it. Talk about it for hours if you have to, but you need both to be on the same page. Figure out what worked, what did not and how you both feel about this and set more boundaries if you are going to do it again, that will make you both feel more comfortable.
Then use that experience and adapt. Maybe suggest next time to leave them alone earlier so she can be more comfortable with him? It is common for wives to not let out their wild side with their lover because they feel shy if their husband is present. Do not ask me why that is, I just know it happens.
Repeat Experiences
One night stands are a common way to start in this lifestyle. You both will not know what you are looking for until you find it. This is especially true with Bulls because they make or break the whole experience. So finding a steady Bull who you trust, will improve the experience dramatically for the better.
Obviously there are downsides and upsides to this. Each couple should give or take of what they value the most. But know that you cannot have it all.
A downside of having a stable Bull is not having the choice variety of men, and that the first date excitement is also gone. But you get stability, and security/safety, from sketchy people and/or STDs.
There are many advantages to long term Bulls, but some of these advantages are often described by many online as “problematic” such as the wife catching feelings for the Bull.
In my opinion feelings are NOT optional and have to exist in some way, in order for her to want to continue sleeping with him, and it is true that they are more probable appearing with a Bull she gets to know over time.
The idea that your wife should not develop feelings for her bull is wrong mindset because:
- Feelings don’t work with an on/off switch.
- Women often, unlike men, need something more than physical attractiveness.
But it is a fair criticism because not everyone can handle the jealousy that comes with that, or some wives will not know how to deal with these feelings and be confused with them, and if they do not have crystal clear communication and trust then it can potentially destroy any relationship.
So set your boundaries, but be reasonable. You cannot set rules for not catching feelings, but you can set rules to not reach a point of that being an issue.
Again, this is hard to say, because each person has different needs and comfort levels.
But in the end, if your wife is not interested in emotionless sex with other men, then you have to understand this lifestyle is not possible if you are going to be strict with the rules.
| Aspect | One-Night Stands (Pros) | One-Night Stands (Cons) | Long-Term Bulls (Pros) | Long-Term Bulls (Cons) |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Variety | High variety of partners | Lack of stability | Stability and trust | Limited variety of men |
| Excitement | First-date thrill | Risk of sketchy people or STDs | Deeper connection possible | Loss of initial excitement |
| Emotional Aspect | Less chance of catching feelings | May feel impersonal | Can build rapport and feelings (managed) | Risk of problematic feelings or jealousy |
| Overall Experience | Good for experimenting | Harder to repeat positive experiences | Improves over time with trust | Requires ongoing communication to avoid issues |
Cucklusion
Nothing is guaranteed because there are many variables into succeeding and failing in getting cucked.
The cuckold journey is a calculated risk, an intricate dance between your fantasies and the messy reality of human connection.
TLDR: Your success hinges on three critical points:
- Preparation: You, the cuckold, must put in the work. Bull hunting is your primary job, requiring patience, realistic standards, and a focus on your wife’s desire, not just your own fantasy.
- Communication: Continuous, crystal-clear dialogue with your wife is non-negotiable. You must audit the Bulls, she must approve them, and most importantly, you must talk through the raw feelings like jealousy and, guilt that follow the dates.
- Adaptation: You will encounter discomfort, awkwardness, and surprises. Be ready to adjust your expectations, especially regarding your role (passive support is often best) and the emotional rules (acknowledge that feelings are a natural part of deeper connection).