It’s normal to feel fear, anxiety, or even shame about having a fetish like cuckolding, especially when you’re thinking about sharing it with your wife.
You might be replaying all the possible worst-case scenarios in your mind.
What if she gets upset? What if she doesn’t understand? What if…?
Maybe you’re already planning out exactly how to bring it up like thinking about what to say, how she might react, and how you’ll respond to her questions or concerns.
It’s a tough conversation to have, but obsessing over it like this is missing the point entirely.
Telling her is only the beginning. The real difficulty starts now.
The Reality is Simple
Your wife is either interested or she’s not.
If you told her and she didn’t jump on this opportunity, the chances of this happening are already low or she’s extremely skeptical about it.
Pushing too hard or saying the wrong thing might just reinforce her “NO” and make it harder for her to reconsider in the future.
The biggest problem most guys have is they never built the kind of relationship where they can bring this up in a comfortable way.
So when they finally bring it up, the initial surprise or shock, the taboo nature of it and the societal stigma can all make her hesitant or resistant to say yes right away.
One on One Support
Disclaimer: I don’t claim to have official expertise. Everything I say is based on my personal experiences and opinions. If you need professional help, then get professional help.
This is completely free and NOBODY from cuckology.com will ask for money.
Feel free to contact me by email or on my socials, if you’re feeling stuck or need some emotional support.
Please only reach out if you’ve already told your wife and she’s aware. Cuckolding is a process, if you haven’t told her, you haven’t started the process. And if you’re having trouble doing it, then you don’t need cuckolding advice but relationship advice.
Be aware I cannot help you on hypotheticals and generic questions. Generic advice are just that, generic and rarely helpful. You can get that on Reddit and everywhere else.
What I need is a reasonable amount of details but please do not send photos, names, or other self-identifying information. Don’t dox yourself.
Some examples:
- Your approximate age range and hers.
- How long you’ve been together/married.
- Her initial reaction when you brought it up (e.g., curious, shocked, shut down).
- Your rough personality types.
- Specific step you’re stuck on (e.g., She said “it’s gross”)
- Any prior attempts or steps you’ve taken (e.g., shared articles, role-played lightly).
- What you’ve already tried from the blog or elsewhere, and why it didn’t click.
- One non-negotiable boundary for you or her in this.
- And anything else you’re comfortable sharing that adds context.
Also, please read the blog as it covers most of my opinions and it will save tremendous amounts of time for both of us from not repeating the basic concepts from the start.
Consider reading: This is why your wife won’t cuckold you and Cuckold Manifesto.
I feel like I can help cucks a lot more indirectly by focusing on educating the wannabe Bulls.
There are many potential good looking guys who have the everything a cuckold couple might be looking for but they can’t capitalize on their advantages over their “competition”.
For that reason they can’t stand out and they get lost in the online crowd of horny men.
Because it’s not about looks and sex, it’s about mindset.
If a wannabe Bull doesn’t know how to think like a real Bull, or doesn’t even understand the Bull role on a basic level, then any success he has is just based on luck.
And this shouldn’t be about luck once in a while. A proper Bull should have cuckold couples lining up to meet him.
If you’re ready to be a Bull, I know I can help you get there.
Usually, wives get convinced by their cuck husbands to contact me, thinking I’ll be the voice of reason and somehow convert them into hotwives.
Nope. I don’t have any incentive or responsibility so what you will get instead is my honest opinion.
In fact, I’ll probably do more harm to your husband’s “goal” because I’m against the idea of “convincing” wives into cuckolding. In my opinion, if she wants it, she will. Zero convincing needed. Maybe just some time to process.
If you contact me, what I can do is help you understand the lifestyle by sharing all the insider info you might need, including why your husband has these desires. That way, you can make your own choice based on the full picture and what you actually want.
Cuckold Community Group
Because most wannabe cucks aren’t even sure if they’re into this, or they just want to chat about cuckolding as a fantasy or a future possibility, I feel creating a cuckold support group is a great idea.
It’s at an experimental stage, but I’ve created a cuckold support group on X called “cuckology.” It’s private but feel free to join if you want some cuckold friends.
JOIN CUCKOLOGY CUCKOLD SUPPORT GROUP
Note that this is a SFW group, meaning no porn or other fetish fantasies. You can get that everywhere.
The ideal goal of the community, in my mind, is to exchange information, advice, mistakes, failures, successes, etc.
Personally, I’d prefer this community to have 2 real cuckolds who offer realistic insights over a 20,000-person group where everyone is sharing the same canned porn fantasy over and over.
See ya there or not.